Michael D.
Michael D.
The ‘90-10’ Rule of Relationship Conflict
The ‘90-10’ Rule of Relationship Conflict
The ‘90-10’ Rule of Relationship Conflict
Wednesday 2nd April 2025
Discover how the '90-10' rule can help resolve relationship conflicts by addressing deeper emotional needs and past wounds.
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Author:
Michael D.
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Recovery from Trauma
Healing Relationships
Healing from Sexual Trauma
Stigma & Social Perspectives
Mindful Recovery
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Episode Overview
- Only 10% of conflicts are about the immediate issue.
- 90% of conflicts stem from deeper emotional needs and past wounds.
- Addressing underlying emotions can break the cycle of recurring arguments.
- Surface issues often mask feelings of being unimportant or unheard.
- Improving communication involves understanding and expressing deeper feelings.
Conflict isn’t necessarily about the issue; it’s about the emotion behind it.
Ever wonder why a simple disagreement can spiral into a major argument? In this episode of 'Health and Healing Dealing with Trauma and Addictions', Michael D. unpacks the '90-10' rule of relationship conflict. This intriguing concept suggests that only 10% of conflicts are about the immediate issue, while a whopping 90% stem from deeper emotional needs and past wounds.
Michael shares relatable examples like unreturned texts and forgotten chores, explaining how these surface issues often mask feelings of being unimportant or unheard. By addressing the underlying emotions rather than just the triggers, couples can break the cycle of recurring arguments. With a mix of practical advice and heartfelt anecdotes, this episode offers a fresh perspective on resolving conflicts in relationships.
So, if you’re tired of the same old fights, tune in to learn how to dig deeper and truly connect with your partner.