I found that when you, as a man, when you make love with your wife, focusing on pleasing her, not making your worrying about making yourself feel good, obviously it's feeling good you're having sex, but focusing on what makes your wife feel good and focus on serving her and loving her the way that she wants to be loved and just trying to make her feel good and satisfied when you're making love to her the whole time- just god blesses that so much in my marriage.