Tawny Lara on Sobriety, Intimacy, and Finding Herself
I think figuring out when someone says: how do I have sober sex, fun or fun sober sex? You know when you have that anxiety before you get intimate, there's different ways to get yourself comfortable.
What happens when you strip away the numbing effects of alcohol and face intimacy head-on? That's what Tawny Lara, a New York City-based writer, unpacks in this episode of 'The Payoff with Pete'. Known for her candid writings on sobriety and sex, Tawny takes listeners through her personal journey of self-discovery, sobriety, and the unique challenges she faced along the way.
With nearly six years of sobriety under her belt, she shares the raw truths about her struggles with self-medication and how she used alcohol to cope with trauma and stress. But it doesn’t stop there. Tawny dives into her experiences with bisexuality and how it intertwined with her path to sobriety. She recounts her time attending AA meetings, where despite the program not being the right fit for her, she met her partner.
One of the most daunting aspects of her journey was learning to navigate sex and dating without the crutch of alcohol. Tawny talks about the absence of a 'how-to' guide for sober intimacy and emphasizes the importance of building strong communication skills in relationships. She also highlights the value of connecting with other sober individuals for resources and support. For Tawny, getting sober was just the first step in peeling back the layers of unhealthy relationships.
She encourages those on a similar path to 'try on' recovery and not let fears or anxieties about intimacy without alcohol hold them back. This episode is a deep dive into the intersection of sobriety, sex, and self-discovery, offering both inspiration and practical advice for anyone navigating similar waters.