Step Nine: The Courage to Make Amends
Episode Overview
Making amends involves more than just apologising; it's about fixing the harm done. The process includes four key questions to guide you. Involving a higher power can provide support and guidance. Discussing your amends with a sponsor beforehand is crucial. Real-life examples highlight the emotional impact and benefits of making amends.
Making amends is not an apology; it's about fixing the harm done.
Step Nine of the 12 Steps is all about making amends, and this episode of Blindsight dives deep into what that really means. Host Bill Lundgren chats with Kevin Peterson, a seasoned counsellor and author, who brings his wealth of experience to the table. Kevin doesn't shy away from sharing his own journey, including the highs and lows of sobriety since 1991.
You'll hear gripping stories about the transformative power of taking responsibility for past actions, not just through apologies but by truly making things right. Kevin breaks down the technical process of Step Nine into four essential questions, offering practical advice and spiritual wisdom on how to approach each one. He emphasises that making amends is more than just saying sorry—it's about fixing the harm done and clearing the slate.
The episode is filled with real-life examples, including Kevin's own experiences of making amends, which are both touching and eye-opening. One story involves a woman he once dated, highlighting the emotional impact of his actions and the relief that comes from making things right. Another tale revolves around a maxed-out credit card and the unexpected consequences it had on a friend's life. These anecdotes make the episode relatable and offer valuable lessons for anyone on their own recovery journey.
Bill and Kevin also discuss the importance of involving a higher power in the process, stressing that you're not alone in this journey. The episode wraps up with practical tips, like always discussing your amends with a sponsor beforehand. Whether you're new to the 12 Steps or a seasoned veteran, this episode offers a wealth of wisdom and encouragement. So, if you're ready to take the courageous step of making amends, this episode is a must-listen.
It’s packed with heartfelt advice and real-world examples that can guide you through this challenging but rewarding part of recovery.