Sex and Sobriety: Dave's Journey to Trust and Communication
For me, sex is inherently linked with drugs. I would take the first hit off that pipe and it was sex for the next hours wherever I could get it. Probably some of the most unsafe times of my life was ending up in really rough neighborhoods, really late at night, with some of the shadiest people.
Ever wondered how sobriety impacts one's sex life, especially in the LGBTQ+ community? In this episode of 'gAy A: A Queer Sober Podcast', Steve Martin-Bennet welcomes back Dave for an honest conversation about sex and communication in sobriety. Dave opens up about his past, where drugs and sex were intertwined, leading him into some of the riskiest situations of his life.
He recounts nights that started with a hit off a pipe and spiraled into hours of unsafe sex in dangerous places. This episode is a stark reminder of the perils of mixing substances with intimacy. But it's not all dark. Steve and Dave dive deep into the importance of communication when it comes to sober sex. Dave emphasizes the need to find a partner who truly cares and is willing to explore your sexual side without substances.
Trust, he explains, is the cornerstone of a healthy sexual relationship in sobriety. The more you trust your partner, the more you'll trust yourself. Steve echoes this sentiment, highlighting how open dialogue can build the necessary trust for both partners to feel comfortable and happy. Dave also shares his journey of regaining sexual confidence after getting sober. Once known for his wild escapades, he now focuses on meaningful connections built on trust and clear communication.
His story is a testament to the power of vulnerability and honesty in rebuilding one's life and relationships post-addiction. This episode is a must-listen for anyone in the LGBTQ+ community navigating sobriety and looking to understand the complexities of sober intimacy. It’s an engaging mix of personal anecdotes and practical advice, offering valuable insights into building healthier, more fulfilling relationships without relying on substances.