Unpacking Sexuality: Vanessa Persephone on Healing and Self-Love
Sexuality is not just about having sex, but it involves many aspects of ourselves. I really feel like I have such a deep desire to feel seen. I just want to be liked, I want to be validated, all those kinds of things.
Sexuality is a topic often shrouded in confusion and misinformation. In this episode of 'Angels Anonymous', Vanessa Persephone takes listeners on a deeply personal journey through her own experiences with sexual shame and trauma. Vanessa, a former professional dancer turned yoga instructor and integrative health coach, brings her characteristic vulnerability and honesty to the discussion, making it both relatable and enlightening. Vanessa starts by sharing how her outpatient treatment for weed addiction introduced her to a broader definition of sexuality.
She references Stephanie Covington's book, 'Helping Women Recover - A Program For Treating Addiction', which defines healthy adult sexuality as an integration of our physical, emotional, social, and spiritual selves. This holistic view was eye-opening for Vanessa, who admits she initially thought sexuality was solely about sex. Throughout the episode, Vanessa delves into the impact of childhood experiences on adult sexuality.
Raised in a family with multiple problems and inadequate sex education, she found herself seeking validation through sex, leading to empty and unsatisfying relationships. Her candidness about these struggles provides a comforting sense of solidarity for anyone who has felt similarly lost or misunderstood. One of the standout messages from this episode is the importance of self-exploration and self-love. Vanessa encourages listeners to take the time to understand their own desires and boundaries before seeking validation from others.
She shares her own journey of learning to love herself and emphasizes the value of waiting to have sex or get intimate as a means of self-discovery. Vanessa also touches on the significance of seeking professional help. Whether it's therapy or educational resources, she stresses that understanding one's insecurities and learning about healthy self-expression are crucial steps toward healing. Her story of overcoming hypersexual friends and the weight of shame and insecurity is both inspiring and empowering.
For anyone grappling with sexual shame or looking to better understand their sexuality, this episode of 'Angels Anonymous' is a must-listen. Vanessa's raw honesty and practical advice offer a path toward embracing one's true desires and living a more fulfilled life.