I think that you know reacting to things as a parent in particular, having a reaction, is almost it's deeply embedded into a parent figure. I hear it all the time, but you don't understand. That's just absolutely unimaginable, right? The beginning is unlearning what you've always done, and it works like this, and I think about this all the time: you can't do something new until you find what you're doing to be unacceptable.