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Podcast #76 — Shame, Shame and More Shame (and Its Good Friend, Substance Use)
Podcast #76 — Shame, Shame and More Shame (and Its Good Friend, Substance Use)
Podcast #76 — Shame, Shame and More Shame (and Its Good Friend, Substance Use)
Friday 11th June 2021
Discover how shame affects substance use and family dynamics in this episode of 'Coming Up for Air'. Practical advice and support await.
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Get the buttons here!Untangling Shame: Substance Use and Family Dynamics
Shame plays a prominent role where substance use has become problematic: the person misusing substances often feels shame about being stuck in the pattern, and the family often falls into the trap of blaming themselves for where their child/family member is, which they may feel reflects badly on them.
Shame is a heavy burden, especially when it intertwines with substance use within a family. In this episode of 'Coming Up for Air', the hosts tackle this complex emotion, exploring how it affects both individuals struggling with addiction and their families. Unlike the fleeting embarrassment from a minor mistake, this kind of shame digs deep, often stemming from the belief that there's something fundamentally wrong with oneself. Kayla aptly calls it 'character assassination'.
The episode sheds light on how shame can trap people in a vicious cycle. Those misusing substances often feel ashamed of their inability to break free from their habits. Meanwhile, family members may blame themselves, thinking their loved one's addiction is a reflection of their own failures. This creates a 'shame-fest', as the hosts describe it, where everyone involved feels trapped by guilt and self-blame. Listeners are guided through understanding the role they play in this family system.
By peeling away the layers of shame, families can start to see their situation more clearly and make meaningful changes. The hosts emphasize the importance of avoiding judgmental language and recognizing that everyone makes mistakes; it's not about being inherently good or bad. One of the key takeaways is the need for a variety of behavioral options and choices.
Comparisons with others can lead to anxiety and feelings of inadequacy, so it's crucial to focus on individual progress rather than societal expectations. The episode also touches on how shame is perpetuated by cultural and treatment systems, affecting those with addiction in profound ways. By breaking the chains of shame, families can find a path toward healing and support.
This episode offers a compassionate and insightful look at a difficult topic, providing practical advice for those navigating the turbulent waters of addiction.