When we put that part of our mind aside and learn how to be still, the stillness is the stillness of the mind. The stillness of the mind, not thinking, not remembering, not planning, not judging, not finding fault, not examining what could have been done different. All that's aside and being still our mind that wants to think, wants to judge, wants to find fault, blame, see ourselves as victim, see ourselves as wounded, see ourselves as without, not enough, abandoned, abused, neglected, etc. This part of the mind is the self, the I, the ego, and it wants to continue to see the hurt, the pain, the abuse, neglect, the guilt, and the shame.