Unpacking Masculine Anger and Shame with Stephan Neff
As men, we do what we do because of our belief system.
Ever wondered why anger and shame seem to hit men differently? In this episode of Now Sober Podcasts, hosts Vince and Jeanna sit down with Stephan Neff, an anesthetist, bestselling author, and a man who knows the struggles of trauma and addiction firsthand. Stephan shares his personal journey of battling depression, anxiety, and PTSD, all while trying to drown his sorrows in alcohol—only to find out that those sorrows can swim.
But here's the kicker: the past doesn't have to dictate the future. Stephan and Vince dive into the origins of masculine anger and shame, peeling back the layers to understand where these emotions come from and how they’ve personally dealt with them. Stephan, now living a fulfilling life free from alcohol, emphasizes the importance of taking extreme ownership of one's actions. This means owning up to your responsibilities and outcomes, even when they seem beyond your control.
It's a game-changer for overcoming self-centeredness and developing a healthier mindset. Another crucial element discussed is the power of vulnerability and mindfulness. Instead of bottling up negative emotions, Stephan advocates for acknowledging and expressing them safely. This approach not only aids in healing past traumas but also builds resilience for future challenges. Recovery isn't a walk in the park; it demands hard work, dedication, and a willingness to change.
But as Stephan and Vince illustrate, taking daily actions and seeking support can pave the way to breaking free from addiction and leading a more fulfilling life. Tune in to this episode for a raw, insightful conversation that could very well be the first step towards your own journey of recovery.