Shame's Hidden Grip: Understanding Its Role in Addiction
Toxic shame is no longer an emotion that signals our limits, as does healthy shame. I've spoken to many a spouse of an addict who felt such shame for so long that her loved one's addiction over her loved one's addiction, rather, who twisted herself into knots to try to control her husband's drinking, thievery, infidelity and lies, that she ultimately became convinced that there was something truly wrong with her.
Imagine living under a cloud of shame so heavy it affects every aspect of your life. In this episode of 'Busting Addiction and Its Myths', Bruno J dives into the complex and often misunderstood role of shame in addiction and recovery. He unpacks the difference between healthy and toxic shame, with a particular focus on how toxic shame can fester and grow in the secrecy and lies that often surround addiction.
This episode reveals how families dealing with an active addict frequently experience toxic shame, which leads them to hide the problem, creating a vicious cycle of secrecy and denial. This toxic environment can break down self-worth, making recovery even more challenging. Bruno J emphasizes that while it's important to understand the roots of shame, it's equally crucial to hold oneself accountable and seek help.
By shining a light on toxic shame, individuals and families can begin to break free from its grip, regardless of whether their loved one achieves sobriety. Tune in to learn how awareness and support can pave the way for regaining self-respect and starting a journey toward healing.