Everybody has to do their own heavy lifting. It's a choice, and I'm pretty sure that, as a victim, we've articulated it several different ways. And sometimes you need to protect yourself from your own parent, even though you know, oh, nobody's going to love you like a mom, nobody's going to be like a dad or a family, or whatever it may be. Know that that's conditional love, not unconditional love, but conditional love they take away from your mental health. Know that you need to set a boundary in there somewhere.