Boundaries are a way for me to continue a relationship with someone. The terms of that are for something that I'm responsible for, not the other person. So when I communicate that with a person, I say, 'I feel A when you do B, and if this behavior continues, I'm going to do C.' It's not meant to be vengeful or anything. It's more like, if you continue to, I feel, unheard and devalued when you don't do the grocery shopping because I spend all day Saturday doing it and I don't get a chance to do my art. If you don't do that, then I'm going to find another time to do my art and I'm going to do that, you know, at an expense of maybe some other tour.