Nedra Glover Tawwab on Navigating Family Dynamics and Healing Relationships
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Ever feel stuck in a loop with your family relationships? In this engaging episode of 'The One You Feed', host Eric Zimmer chats with licensed therapist Nedra Glover Tawwab about the intricate dance of family dynamics. Nedra, known for her expertise in boundaries and relationships, shares her wisdom on how to connect who we are now with who we were in our family context.
She dives into recognizing unhealthy patterns that may have been passed down and offers practical advice on unlearning these behaviors. One of the standout points Nedra makes is the difference between changing behavior and changing personality. While you can adjust your actions, expecting someone else to change their core personality might be a losing battle. Instead, she emphasizes focusing on your own boundaries and clearly communicating them. What happens when someone refuses to respect those boundaries?
Nedra offers strategies for managing these challenging relationships, highlighting the importance of setting parameters for communication and accepting people as they are. Shame also plays a big role in how we interact with our families. Nedra explains that shame can limit our honesty with ourselves and others, making it hard to break free from unhealthy patterns. By recognizing and addressing shame directly, we can open the door to more honest and healing interactions.
This episode is packed with practical tips and deep insights, making it a must-listen for anyone looking to improve their family relationships. Whether you're dealing with a stubborn relative or trying to unlearn outdated ideas of love, Nedra's advice is both empowering and actionable.