Navigating Holiday Stress: Angela Myer's Tips for Handling Narcissists
Remember, when they act immaturely, their core inner child wound comes to surface and is stuck in their survivor brain. They cannot have a rational conversation with you. That is why their behaviors have nothing to do with you.
The holiday season can be a joyous time, but when you have to deal with a narcissist, it can turn into a minefield of stress and emotional turmoil. In this episode of 'The Undetected Narcissist Podcast', Angela Myer, a seasoned wellness and narcissistic recovery coach, shares her wisdom on managing these challenging interactions. Angela brings over two decades of experience to the table, offering practical advice to help you maintain your sanity and peace during the festive season.
Angela's approach centers on six key strategies that can make a world of difference. First up is the BIFF method: Be Brief, Informative, Friendly, and Firm. This tactic helps keep interactions short and to the point, avoiding unnecessary drama. Next, she emphasizes the importance of fact-checking. Narcissists are known for their manipulative behavior, so it's crucial to mentally evaluate their statements and actions without falling into their traps. Self-care is another cornerstone of Angela's advice.
She encourages listeners to create a self-care schedule filled with activities that help them relax and recharge. Setting boundaries is also vital; being clear about what you will and won't tolerate can save you from many headaches. If attending gatherings with the narcissist feels overwhelming, Angela advises that it's perfectly okay to decline invitations or suggest alternative plans. Lastly, always have an exit plan.
If you do decide to attend an event where the narcissist will be present, be prepared to leave early if things get too intense. Having a polite excuse ready can make your departure smoother. Angela's insights remind us that the narcissist's behavior is not a reflection of our worth. By prioritizing self-care and setting firm boundaries, you can navigate the holidays with more confidence and less stress.
Tune in to this episode of 'The Undetected Narcissist Podcast' for a deeper dive into these life-saving tips.