Unmasking DARVO: How Narcissists Twist Reality to Dodge Blame
Darvo is an acronym for deny attack, reverse victim and offender. It is a defense mechanism used by manipulators to evade accountability for the harm they inflict on others.
Ever felt like you were the one in the wrong when you knew deep down you weren't? That's the sinister power of DARVO, a tactic narcissists use to turn the tables and avoid accountability. In this eye-opening episode of 'Narcissistic Abuse Rehab', host Manya Wakefield breaks down how DARVO – which stands for Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender – works to manipulate perceptions and protect abusers from facing the consequences of their actions.
Manya dives into the mechanics of DARVO, explaining how it's a collective grooming tactic that thrives on power imbalances. If you've ever confronted a narcissist, you might have found yourself suddenly painted as the villain while they play the victim. This episode sheds light on why that happens and who is most likely to be targeted. The discussion also touches on the heartbreaking reality of why bystanders often side with the abuser. Dr. Jennifer J.
Freyd's concept of 'betrayal blindness' is explored, revealing how self-preservation and social capital can lead people to ignore the abuse right in front of them. But it’s not just about understanding the tactic; it's about recognizing its long-term effects. Survivors often face severe mental health challenges, including anxiety, depression, and PTSD, all while being unjustly blamed and ostracized.
This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to understand the dark art of DARVO and find ways to support survivors on their path to healing.