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Eggshell Transformations with Imi Lo

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  • Growing up with an Unstable Parent (Audio Essay)

Growing up with an Unstable Parent (Audio Essay)

Saturday 7th September 2024

Explore the complexities of growing up with an unstable parent. Imi Lo offers empathy, understanding, and practical advice for healing from childhood trauma.
10 minutes
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Eggshell Transformations with Imi Lo
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Growing Up with an Unstable Parent: A Journey Through Emotional Turmoil

Episode Overview

  • Unpredictable parental behaviour creates long-term emotional scars.
  • Borderline personality disorder traits can lead to intense but volatile connections.
  • Children often develop hypervigilance and struggle with boundaries.
  • Healing requires acknowledging past traumas and breaking unhealthy patterns.
  • Building secure relationships is possible through conscious effort.
The most tragic thing about your childhood is how much you have to edit yourself just to survive
Have you ever felt like you're walking on eggshells around a parent? In this episode of 'Eggshell Transformations with Imi Lo', you'll dive into the complexities of growing up with an unstable parent. Imi Lo, a renowned therapist and coach, paints a vivid picture of the emotional roller coaster that children of such parents often endure. One moment, you're showered with love and empathy; the next, you're caught in a storm of rage and confusion.
It's a heartbreaking reality that leaves lasting scars well into adulthood. Imi discusses how the unpredictability of a parent's behaviour can create a confusing and damaging environment. She explains that these parents may not have a formal diagnosis but often exhibit signs of borderline personality disorder. Their emotional volatility makes it hard for children to feel secure, leading to long-term issues like hypervigilance and difficulty setting boundaries.
You'll hear about the paradoxical nature of these parents – their moments of intense empathy can be both comforting and overwhelming. This heightened sensitivity, while allowing for deep connections, also results in porous emotional boundaries and sudden mood shifts. Imi dives into the concept of 'repetition compulsion', where children unconsciously recreate past traumas in an attempt to master them, often clinging to the hope that their parent will change.
The episode also explores the impact of a parent's emotional absence, which can lead to crippling separation anxiety and fear of abandonment in adult relationships. Imi provides invaluable insights into the journey of healing from such childhood trauma. She emphasises the importance of acknowledging your experiences and breaking free from unhealthy patterns to build secure and fulfilling relationships. Why should you listen?
If you've ever felt the weight of growing up with an unstable parent or know someone who has, this episode offers empathy, understanding, and practical advice for healing. It’s a powerful reminder that while the past shapes us, it doesn’t have to define our future.