Imi Lo
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"Everything was NOT okay" - On Self-directed Anger (Short Audio Essay)
"Everything was NOT okay" - On Self-directed Anger (Short Audio Essay)
"Everything was NOT okay" - On Self-directed Anger (Short Audio Essay)
Friday 26th April 2024
Explore how self-directed anger forms and learn to reclaim your story in this insightful episode with Imi Lo.
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Get the buttons here!Breaking Free from Self-Blame: Understanding Self-Directed Anger
Episode Overview
- Understanding how self-directed anger forms in childhood.
- Recognising the emotional costs of internalising anger.
- Breaking free from patterns of self-blame.
- Reclaiming your story and validating your emotional experiences.
- Moving from self-blame to self-understanding and compassion.
By believing that you are at fault, perhaps seeing yourself as not good enough, or failing to meet the ideal child standards, you created an illusion of control
Ever wondered why you tend to blame yourself for everything? This episode of 'Eggshell Transformations with Imi Lo' dives deep into the mechanisms of self-directed anger and self-blame. Imi Lo, a renowned psychotherapist, explores how growing up in an environment lacking empathy can lead to internalising anger and self-aggression.
The episode is a short audio essay that sheds light on how children cope with emotional neglect by turning their anger inward, often resulting in a relentless inner critic and toxic shame. Imi Lo discusses how children rationalise their caregivers' behaviour by believing that they themselves are the problem. This coping mechanism, while protective in childhood, carries significant emotional costs into adulthood.
You might find yourself being overly self-critical, constantly battling feelings of inadequacy, or even sabotaging your own efforts without realising it. The episode also touches on psychoanalytic theories, such as those proposed by W.R.D. Fairbairn, to explain how children internalise the negative aspects of their caregivers. The episode isn't just about identifying these patterns but also about breaking free from them. Imi Lo emphasises the importance of reclaiming your story and validating your emotional experiences.
She talks about the journey from self-blame to self-understanding and compassion, which involves recognising the trauma you've experienced and affirming that your responses are valid. This process is crucial for healing and ultimately leads to a compassionate re-engagement with the world. If you've ever felt like you're constantly battling an inner critic or struggling with feelings of inadequacy, this episode offers valuable insights and practical advice.
It's a must-listen for anyone looking to understand the roots of their self-directed anger and take steps towards healing. So, are you ready to reclaim your story and break free from the cycle of self-blame?