Transforming Conflict: Insights from Dr. Kavita Avula
Episode Overview
Avoid trying to convince others; focus on understanding their perspective. Step closer to those who are different to build genuine connections. Recognise and address unconscious biases within groups. Use talking circles to ensure everyone's voice is heard. Foster nonviolent coexistence through curiosity and dialogue.
"When you step closer to people, they can't be an 'other' anymore."
In this episode of Beyond the Two Pillars of Recovery, Dr. Kavita Avula, a clinical psychologist and group psychotherapist, joins hosts Geoff Kane and Erin Wessel. Dr. Avula specialises in conflict resolution and large group dynamics, bringing a wealth of experience in trauma and cross-cultural psychology. She shares her insights on the importance of avoiding the urge to convince others to see things our way and instead focusing on understanding and curiosity.
Growing up in an Indian family where everyone spoke their mind, Dr. Avula learned early on the value of open communication but also realised its limitations when it came to resolving conflicts. Dr. Avula discusses how stepping closer to those who are different can transform relationships, turning 'others' into friends. She emphasises the importance of slowing down, listening, and becoming genuinely interested in why others hold their beliefs.
This approach fosters nonviolent coexistence and deeper connections, even in politically charged environments. Dr. Avula also highlights the role of unconscious bias and how recognising it can lead to more equitable and inclusive communities. The episode delves into practical strategies for conflict resolution, such as using talking circles to ensure everyone has a voice and addressing biases within groups. Dr.
Avula's experiences with Therapists Beyond Borders showcase her commitment to facilitating healing and recovery in diverse settings, from natural disasters to institutional culture changes. This episode is a must-listen for anyone interested in building stronger, more empathetic communities. Dr. Avula's wisdom and practical advice offer a roadmap for navigating conflicts and fostering genuine connections. Why not take a moment to reflect on how you approach disagreements and consider trying some of Dr. Avula's techniques in your own life?