Standing Strong: Danielle Mains on Supporting a Partner with PTSD
You know they, they don't put that line item on their budget. And for as many people as Ryan has shared his story with, I mean you wouldn't believe just the emails, the messages, the dms that we get, like, hey, me too I'm, I can't do this because of this reason, or I'm not in a spot to get help because of this reason.
Imagine living in a home where every loud noise could set off a chain reaction of trauma. That's the reality Danielle Mains faced as her husband, Ryan, battled crippling PTSD from his years of service and firefighting. In this episode of '40,000 Steps Radio', host Christopher Heimerman chats with Danielle about her unwavering support for Ryan during his darkest times.
She shares the heart-wrenching journey from the days when she tried to keep their home as quiet as a whisper to avoid triggering Ryan, to his eventual admission into inpatient treatment in March 2019 and later intensive outpatient care that fall. Danielle's story isn't just about coping with a loved one's trauma; it's about standing by them as they navigate their path to recovery.
She and Ryan even turned their struggle into a mission with their fundraiser, Run for Our Lives, which culminates in Ryan running an ultramarathon to honor firefighters who took their own lives the previous year. The funds raised support the Illinois Firefighter Peer Support Hotline, the lifeline that helped Ryan. Danielle also opens up about the stigmas surrounding mental health in first responder communities and stresses the need for better support systems.
Despite the heavy topics, the episode is a testament to resilience and the power of love and compassion. Whether you're dealing with PTSD yourself or supporting someone who is, Danielle's story offers hope and practical advice.