Understanding Detachment: A Natural Response to Stress
Episode Overview
Detachment is a result of prolonged nervous system activation. Fight, flight, freeze, and fawn are natural responses to stress. Emotional abuse can occur without either party realising it. Support groups can provide essential help during recovery. Detachment is about self-preservation, not failure.
Detachment isn't something you pull out of your bag of tricks; it's what happens when you've been activated for too long
Sheri and Matt Salis have a story that resonates with many who have faced the challenges of alcoholism within their marriage. In this episode of the Untoxicated Podcast, they break down the concept of detachment, not as a strategy but as a result of prolonged stress and hyper-vigilance. They delve into the fight, flight, freeze, and fawn responses, illustrating how constant nervous system activation can lead to emotional and physical detachment.
Sheri and Matt share their personal experiences with these responses, providing a raw and honest look at the toll it takes on relationships and individual well-being. The couple discusses how their own journey through alcoholism and recovery has taught them that detachment often comes from a place of nervous system overwhelm. They explain that this state is not something one can simply decide to adopt; instead, it is a natural outcome of enduring stress and emotional turmoil for too long.
Their candid conversation touches on the emotional abuse that can occur in such situations, shedding light on how both the abuser and the victim can be unaware of their roles. Matt and Sheri also talk about the importance of recognising these patterns and seeking help, whether through support groups like their Echoes of Recovery or other resources. They emphasise that detachment is about self-preservation and protecting one's mental health, rather than a failure or a sign of weakness.
This episode is a must-listen for anyone grappling with the complexities of alcoholism in relationships, offering insights and practical advice on navigating these turbulent waters. Curious about how detachment manifests in your own life? Or maybe you're looking for ways to support a loved one through their recovery journey? Tune in to gain valuable perspectives and find out why understanding your nervous system's responses is crucial in the path to healing.