Healthy Detachment: Dr. Brad Reedy on Parenting Without Over-Identification
Our job as parents is to go out and take care of ourselves, to tell people how we feel, to talk to a mentor, a sponsor, a therapist, to take care of ourselves there, so that in the parent-child interaction we can be there for the child.
Parenting can be a rollercoaster, especially when dealing with addiction in the family. In this episode of 'Beyond Hope', Dr. Brad Reedy sheds light on the importance of healthy detachment in parenting. Dr. Reedy, co-owner and Clinical Director of Evoke Therapy Programs, emphasizes that parents need to focus on their own well-being rather than making their children's lives their project.
He explains that over-identifying with our children can have lasting consequences, and it's crucial for parents to treat their children as individuals with their own feelings and experiences. Dr. Reedy shares his belief that children are not responsible for their parents' serenity. Instead, parents should prioritize self-care to be emotionally available for their children. He discusses the impact of dictating how children should feel and underscores the importance of allowing them to experience their emotions independently.
This approach helps parents become healthier individuals and, in turn, better support their children's emotional development. The episode also explores the idea of tolerating children's pain and sitting with them in empathic misery rather than trying to fix their problems. This powerful message is not just for parents dealing with addiction but for anyone navigating the complexities of parenting. Dr. Reedy's insights offer a transformative perspective on fostering healthier parent-child relationships.
Whether you're struggling with addiction in your family or simply looking for ways to improve your parenting approach, this episode of 'Beyond Hope' provides valuable guidance and encouragement. Tune in to hear Dr. Reedy's wisdom and join a community of parents who are learning to navigate these challenges with hope and resilience.