Candace Plattor on Loving Relationships Amidst Addiction
I'm willing to be there for you as much as I'm able to. I help them get the partner ready, get the addict ready for help. You know, I think, that when we go into, when we walk down the street or we go into someplace like a coffee shop, people aren't wearing a sign on their forehead saying I am affected by somebody's addiction, but I don't have a statistic for it.
Balancing love and addiction can feel like walking a tightrope. In this heartfelt episode of Rewired Radio, host Erica Spiegelman chats with Candace Plattor, a specialist in addiction and family dynamics. Plattor dives into the complexities of maintaining romantic relationships while navigating the stormy seas of addiction and recovery. She shares some eye-opening statistics: 70% of people entering rehab are in a romantic relationship, and 80% of those relationships endure post-treatment. But how do couples manage this turbulent journey?
Plattor breaks it down. Firstly, she emphasizes that addiction is a family disease. It's not just the individual who suffers; everyone around them feels the impact. Education is key, Plattor says. Understanding that addiction is a brain disease, not a moral failing, can help break down stigmas and open doors to seeking help. One of the trickiest parts is knowing the difference between enabling and supporting.
Plattor explains that enabling means doing things for someone that they could and should be doing for themselves, which can stall their recovery. Supporting, on the other hand, involves providing encouragement and help to someone actively working towards sobriety. Self-care is another cornerstone of Plattor's advice. Loved ones need to set boundaries and look after their own mental and physical health. This might mean seeking professional help, practicing self-compassion, or joining support groups.
Lastly, Plattor encourages couples to reassess their values and priorities. Recovery can be transformative, prompting both partners to reevaluate what truly matters in their lives. This episode is a must-listen for anyone grappling with addiction in their relationships. With practical advice and empathetic insights, Candace Plattor offers a beacon of hope for those navigating these challenging waters.