Letting Go of Perfectionism in Addiction Support
Episode Overview
Perfectionism can hinder genuine connection with loved ones. Owning mistakes and making amends strengthens relationships. Anxiety often fuels the need for perfection, which can be counterproductive. Connection and love are more effective than perfectly crafted plans. Repairing relationships is crucial for long-term healing.
If your loved one feels connection and love, that’s the beginning of treatment
Perfectionism can be a huge barrier when dealing with a loved one's addiction, and that's exactly what this episode of Coming Up for Air tackles. Greer and Carolyn share their personal experiences of trying to get everything 'just right' and how this mindset often led to more harm than good. They discuss the immense pressure they felt to save their loved ones, sometimes to the point of scripting conversations word-for-word, only to have them shut down immediately.
The episode highlights the importance of connection over perfection, stressing that genuine moments of love and understanding are far more impactful than any perfectly crafted plan. Greer and Carolyn open up about their struggles with anxiety and the realisation that mistakes are part of the journey. They emphasise that owning up to these mistakes and making amends can actually strengthen relationships and aid in the healing process.
The hosts also touch on the concept of 'repair' in relationships, explaining that it's not the mistakes themselves but the failure to repair them that causes lasting damage. This episode is a heartfelt exploration of how letting go of perfectionism can lead to deeper connections and more effective support for loved ones struggling with addiction. If you're dealing with similar challenges, this episode offers valuable insights and a reminder that it's okay to be imperfect. The key takeaway?
Connection and love are the true beginnings of treatment.