Counsellor A.J. Mahari
Counsellor A.J. Mahari
BPD Ex Remember The Good Times?
BPD Ex Remember The Good Times?
BPD Ex Remember The Good Times?
Tuesday 18th October 2022
A.J. Mahari discusses why staying invested in whether your BPD ex remembers the good times can lead to self-abandonment and increased pain.
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Counsellor A.J. Mahari
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Get the buttons here!Letting Go of False Hope: Understanding Your BPD Ex's Memories
The question is going to increase your pain? The answer is no, and nobody wants to hear that. Because you're negating all the negative and all the pain they've caused you because you're trying to get out of that pain.
Ever found yourself stuck wondering if your ex with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) remembers the good times? In this episode of 'Surviving BPD Relationship Breakups', A.J. Mahari tackles this heart-wrenching question head-on. With over three decades of experience as a Counselor and Trauma Recovery Coach, Mahari explains how clinging to this question can lead to self-abandonment and deepen your pain.
She dives into why individuals with BPD often struggle to recall positive moments, instead focusing on the negative aspects of the relationship. Mahari shares her wealth of knowledge on codependency, inner child healing, and narcissistic abuse recovery to offer a comprehensive understanding of the healing process. She emphasizes the importance of seeking support to navigate the emotional turmoil of a breakup, especially one involving BPD.
One of the key insights from this episode is that people with BPD have a tendency to form unhealthy bonds that are hard to break, even after the relationship ends. Mahari explains that the idealization phase, where the person with BPD feels deeply connected and understood, is often followed by a devaluation phase. This shift can happen for many reasons and includes micro-splits that aren't consciously recognized by the person with BPD.
As a result, they may ghost their partner or say hurtful things, placing blame on the other person. Mahari stresses that this behavior is not about you; it's about their own struggles. She explains that individuals with BPD often don't remember the good times because their comfort zone lies within negativity and pain. This episode offers a compassionate and informative look at the complex dynamics of BPD relationship breakups.
Mahari's guidance can help you understand why staying invested in certain questions can hinder your healing process and what steps you can take to move forward. If you're grappling with the aftermath of a BPD breakup, this episode is a must-listen.