In this trauma bonded type of relationship, it's not exactly what I just said there. Right, I want to just give you that framework. So the cyclical nature of this dependency and negative self concept- and that's going on for the person with bpd and the person with codependency, and not necessarily to the same degree, but it leads to the formation of a strong emotional bond from from codependent to borderline, from victim to abuser, and so the physical, emotional and sexual abuse can be used to maintain the power differential.