Amanda Montell: Unmasking Love Bombing and Gaslighting
He created this sense at the beginning of the relationship that I was like the only person in the world for me having done nothing special, like again, we hadn't even met in person, but he was telling me exactly what I wanted to hear, that I was a genius, that I had something big to say to the world and that, with him, like we could create something amazing.
Ever wondered how someone could manipulate you into a toxic relationship without you even realizing it? Amanda Montell, a writer and linguist, opens up about her own harrowing experience with love bombing and gaslighting in this eye-opening episode of 'Secret Life'. When Amanda innocently texted her friend’s older brother in Hollywood during high school, she had no idea it would spiral into a calculated and abusive relationship.
Hosted by Brianne Davis, this conversation dives deep into the insidious tactics used by narcissists and sociopaths to control their victims. Love bombing, as Amanda explains, is the initial phase where abusers create an overwhelming sense of affection and attention, only to later devalue and discard their victims.
Amanda's personal story sheds light on the psychological impact of these manipulative tactics, offering a cautionary tale for anyone who has ever felt swept off their feet by someone who seemed too good to be true. Beyond her personal narrative, Amanda also discusses the broader implications of cult-like influence in everyday life, from multi-level marketing schemes to extreme fan groups.
Her book, 'Cultish: The Language of Fanaticism', delves into the social science behind why people get drawn into these fringe groups and how they can break free. If you or someone you know is grappling with emotional abuse, addiction, or depression, this episode provides both a compelling story and practical advice on recognizing and protecting yourself from manipulation. Tune in for an enlightening and supportive conversation that could make all the difference.