Navigating the Two Roads to Healing After Narcissistic Abuse
It is really important that you don't take this journey alone. It is the gateway to the change, it is the path to the recovery, it is the way to get to the work, even when you don't know what that means, even if maybe you've been doing that or you did that once- or I mean once, I mean you did that with somebody like a therapist, you did it somewhat, but then you got blocked somewhere and you didn't get all the way through.
What happens when the scars of narcissistic abuse run deep? In this episode of 'BPD Recovery 4 You', A.J. Mahari unpacks the two distinct paths survivors often find themselves on. Drawing from her 24 years of experience and personal battles with narcissistic abuse, Mahari breaks down the psychological defenses that can keep victims stuck in a cycle of pain and avoidance.
She emphasizes that healing is a conscious choice and requires navigating through the complexities of the Change Triangle, a tool for understanding and processing emotions. Mahari discusses how avoidance and ambivalence can hinder recovery, keeping survivors from confronting their core emotions. She also highlights the trap of regression, where survivors might idealize their abuser or blame themselves. However, Mahari offers hope by explaining how professional help and emotional work can lead to radical acceptance and self-reclamation.
Through relatable anecdotes and practical advice, she stresses the importance of not going through this journey alone and seeking support. If you or someone you know is grappling with the aftermath of narcissistic abuse, this episode offers a roadmap to understanding your emotions and finding a path to genuine healing.