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  • #71: Why Being A People Pleaser May Be Hurting Your Sobriety

#71: Why Being A People Pleaser May Be Hurting Your Sobriety

Friday 23rd February 2024

Discover how people-pleasing can harm your sobriety and learn practical steps to prioritise your well-being.
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How People-Pleasing Can Sabotage Your Sobriety

Episode Overview

  • Identify if your life is guided by others' opinions.
  • Use practical exercises to make decisions that benefit you.
  • Stop apologising for prioritising your recovery.
  • Set boundaries to maintain sobriety and improve relationships.
  • Understand that saying no is a form of self-care.
When you say yes to something, you are saying no to something else
Are you a people pleaser? This episode of The Sober and Happy Podcast tackles the often-overlooked issue of how people-pleasing can impact your sobriety. Tim, with over a decade of sobriety under his belt, shares his journey from rehab to self-love and happiness. He dives into the complex world of making decisions that benefit not just yourself but also those around you, without compromising your own well-being.
Tim starts by asking a simple yet profound question: Is your life being guided by the opinions of others? Many in recovery struggle with saying no, fearing disappointment or judgment. Tim recounts his own battles with this issue, explaining how he worried about what people at the bar would think if he stopped going or if friends would abandon him for choosing sobriety. He offers practical advice on breaking free from the cycle of people-pleasing.
One powerful exercise involves listing reasons for and against a decision and then flipping each reason to see what you're truly saying yes or no to. For example, saying yes to meeting drinking buddies means saying no to a better life and healthier relationships. Tim also emphasises the importance of not apologising for prioritising your recovery. Saying no isn't about being rude; it's about self-care.
He warns that people accustomed to your people-pleasing ways might react negatively when you start setting boundaries. But he insists that these boundaries are crucial for maintaining sobriety and improving relationships. This episode is packed with relatable anecdotes and actionable steps to help you stop living for others and start living for yourself. If you're struggling with people-pleasing and its impact on your sobriety, this episode is a must-listen. Remember, your sobriety is worth prioritising, and so are you.
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