I think just it's okay to be honest with yourself with where you are there's no right or wrong if you're just starting to kind of wonder like give yourself space and grace and um there's just yeah I think there's just there's no one way to do this there's no right or wrong way as long as you're making the best decisions for yourself and you know it's okay to feel not okay or to sit in discomfort um to just be kind to yourself I guess