Healing Sexual Shame with Dr. Tina Sellers
Episode Overview
Abstinence-only education's impact on sexual understanding. Healing sexual shame through real sex education. Raising confident, shame-free children. The role of media and cultural norms in shaping sexuality. Practical steps for parents to educate themselves and their children.
Shame has a really hard time sort of living in a place of compassion and understanding and knowledge.
In this engaging episode of 'Fertility Matters', host Jessica Hobbis welcomes Dr. Tina Sellers, a licensed clinical sexologist, to discuss the intricate links between fertility, sexuality, and societal influences. Dr. Sellers shares her journey from a marriage and family therapist to becoming a renowned expert in human sexuality. She sheds light on how cultural shifts in the 80s, particularly the rise of abstinence-only education, impacted the understanding and teaching of sexuality in the US.
This episode dives into the profound effects of sexual shame on individuals' self-worth and relationships, and how societal norms often contribute to this issue. Dr. Sellers introduces her model for healing sexual shame, 'Healing the Mess', which focuses on four key areas: frame, name, claim, and aim. She emphasises the importance of real sex education and how understanding our bodies can help dismantle ingrained shame.
The conversation also touches on the impact of media and cultural norms on perceptions of sexuality and the importance of creating a supportive environment for discussing these topics. Jessica and Dr. Sellers discuss practical steps for parents to raise confident, shame-free children, drawing from Dr. Sellers' book 'Shameless Parenting'. They explore how parents can reparent themselves while educating their children about healthy sexuality.
The episode is filled with heartfelt anecdotes and practical advice, making it a must-listen for anyone interested in understanding and healing sexual shame. If you're looking to understand the deep-rooted issues of sexual shame and how to overcome them, this episode offers valuable insights and practical steps. It's a thought-provoking conversation that encourages listeners to reflect on their own experiences and take steps towards healing.