Jay Stringer on Breaking Free from Unwanted Sexual Behavior
And so, in many ways, the addiction is the most honest dimension of every person's life because it reveals the stories about where we've been and some of the current roadblocks that we're facing on our way to freedom.
Ever wondered why certain sexual behaviors seem impossible to shake? Jay Stringer, a licensed mental health counselor and ordained minister, joins Stephen Hays on the Stigma Podcast to shed light on this very question. Jay's groundbreaking research dives into the connection between our past experiences and unwanted sexual behaviors like pornography use, affairs, and buying sex. In this eye-opening episode, Jay shares how understanding these links can pave the way to true freedom and healing.
Jay talks about his book, 'Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing', and discusses the insights gained from studying over 3,800 individuals struggling with these issues. He challenges the common approach of 'lust management', which often fails to offer lasting solutions. Instead, Jay suggests that by paying attention to our desires, we can uncover unresolved stories from our past that need addressing.
Throughout the episode, you'll hear about attachment theory, the role of faith and community in recovery, and the importance of honesty and vulnerability. Jay also highlights how shame and stigma can hinder progress, and why sharing our stories in small groups can be incredibly beneficial. This episode is a must-listen for anyone dealing with unwanted sexual behavior or supporting someone who is. Jay's insights offer a compassionate and practical approach to understanding and overcoming these challenges.