Empowering vs. Enabling: Michael Stoller’s Take on Healthy Support
Take a look: where are you empowering or enabling people? And the hard thing to look is: where are people enabling or empowering me?
Ever wondered if your support is truly helping or unintentionally holding someone back? Michael Stoller dives into this tricky topic in his podcast episode 'Enabling vs. Empowering'. He breaks down the subtle but significant differences between these two approaches. Stoller uses relatable examples to illustrate how enabling can often be crippling, like constantly reminding your kids to do their homework or making excuses for a partner's behavior.
On the flip side, he explains how empowering means holding people accountable and letting them face the consequences of their actions, which ultimately fosters growth and independence. But it’s not just about others; Stoller also talks about self-empowerment and the importance of building self-esteem from within rather than relying on external validation. He urges listeners to reflect on their own actions—are you enabling yourself in ways that hinder your growth?
With his candid storytelling and practical advice, Stoller provides a roadmap for anyone looking to foster healthier, more empowering relationships. Tune in for a quick yet impactful episode that might just change the way you support those around you.