Handling Bigoted Family and Healing: Elizabeth Kupferman's Take
The only reason to have a confrontation, to go through the nightmare of a confrontation, is because you want the relationship to be better and closer.
Ever found yourself stuck in a room with a bigoted family member, wondering how to keep your sanity intact? Elizabeth Kupferman has got you covered. In this episode of 'Ask An Advanced Bitch', Elizabeth tackles two pressing listener questions with her signature blend of dark humor and practical advice. First up, she dives into the tricky waters of dealing with bigoted family members. Her advice? Don’t engage. It's a losing battle that leaves you frustrated and them unchanged.
Instead, she shares some handy strategies and coping mechanisms to help you navigate these uncomfortable situations. Think predetermined scripts for awkward conversations and the clever acronym 'C Jade Run', which stands for Convincing, Justifying, Arguing, Defending, and Explaining – all things to avoid when dealing with bigots. Elizabeth also suggests physically leaving the room or mentally checking out to keep your peace of mind. The second listener question revolves around the frustration of not being able to 'get better'.
Elizabeth reassures us that the real work lies in getting back on track after we veer off course. She breaks down what this looks like in real life, offering encouragement and actionable tips for those messy healing journeys. If you're struggling with trauma responses, codependency, or just trying to keep it together around difficult family members, this episode is packed with insights that can help you find your way.