But being able to release that is difficult. I'm not going to say it's easy because it is not easy. It is one of the most difficult things about healing from divorce, but it's also one of the pivotal things, because when you release your ex into god's hands, when you say that you are no longer going to allow them to control your life by their actions or by their words, they no longer have power over you, and when they no longer have power over you, you can start to heal and you will start to heal.