Untangling Co-dependency and Self-Doubt Post-Divorce with Elizabeth Kupferman
In order to heal our codependency, we must get really, really good, like really really good, at understanding dynamics.
Imagine navigating the murky waters of co-dependency, comparison, and self-doubt after a divorce. In this episode of 'Ask An Advanced Bitch', Elizabeth Kupferman tackles these tough topics head-on, providing listeners with practical advice and a sprinkle of dark humor. Elizabeth kicks things off by addressing a listener's question about dealing with a 'hot and cold' partner. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing relationship dynamics, specifically the 'bait and switch' tactic, and setting clear standards for acceptable behavior. Elizabeth's advice?
Move towards what makes you feel valued and steer clear of distressing situations. Next, she dives into the pitfalls of comparison. Elizabeth introduces her 'Comparison Tool', explaining how comparing ourselves to others can be damaging. She shares her belief that inheriting someone else's good fortune also means inheriting their problems, reminding us that it's often safer to stick with our own circumstances. Lastly, Elizabeth responds to a listener devastated by her ex-husband's seemingly happier post-divorce life.
She cautions against the illusions created by social media and encourages focusing on personal growth instead. This episode is a goldmine for anyone grappling with CPTSD, co-dependency, or grief. Elizabeth's irreverent yet insightful approach offers hope and practical tools for healing and self-improvement. Whether you're fresh out of a breakup or years into recovery, her guidance can help you build healthier relationships and a stronger sense of self.