Breaking the Silence: Understanding Addiction Family Rules with Tamara Kirby
When we see our clients and they come in and they're isolated, they don't share what's really happening, yes, and, and they have no idea what their feelings are.
Ever felt like your family has its own secret rulebook? In this episode of 'Soberful', Veronica Valli and Tamara Kirby pull back the curtain on the unspoken rules that often govern families dealing with addiction. These rules—don't talk, don't feel, don't trust—can have a profound impact on mental health and relationships, sometimes echoing through generations.
Tamara opens up about her own experiences growing up in an addicted family, shedding light on how these hidden rules shaped her life and emotional well-being. Veronica and Tamara also dive into the gendered nature of emotional reactions and the gaslighting that can occur in these environments. They stress the importance of recognizing and accepting one's feelings, as well as the value of honest communication in breaking these harmful patterns. Ever walked on eggshells to avoid conflict?
They touch on that too, exploring the difficulty of making mistakes in addiction families. This episode isn't just about identifying problems; it's packed with practical advice for healing and creating healthier family dynamics. As Veronica and Tamara say, 'the not drinking bit becomes easy' once you tackle the underlying issues. Tune in for a heartfelt and enlightening conversation that could be a game-changer for anyone affected by addiction family dynamics.