Mastering Conflict: Nonviolent Communication with Elizabeth Kupferman
So if you say you made me feel like I was a piece of shit, then the other person can have plausible deniability of. So I'll just say I felt uncomfortable, I felt sad, I felt wounded, and so well, you didn't.
Ever felt like you're walking on eggshells around someone in 'fight mode'? Elizabeth Kupferman, the no-nonsense host of 'Ask An Advanced Bitch', dives into this tricky territory in episode 13. She tackles a listener's question about confronting someone whose behavior is upsetting without causing a full-blown argument. Elizabeth emphasizes the pitfalls of diagnosing others' trauma responses during conflicts, which often leads to unhelpful power dynamics.
Instead, she introduces the concept of Nonviolent Communication (NVC), a method created by Marshall Rosenberg that helps separate facts from emotions for more effective and respectful confrontations. Using real-life scenarios, Elizabeth demonstrates how NVC can help us set boundaries, foster mutual understanding, and resolve conflicts without resorting to personal attacks. Alongside co-hosts Trent and Taylor, she also delves into 'The Vow' Episode 4, adding another layer of intrigue to the discussion.
If you're tired of conflicts escalating and want practical tools for healthier interactions, this episode is a must-listen.