Boundaries or Control? Unpacking Therapy Speak in Modern Relationships

I think it's really hard to know how to navigate, even in a married relationship. We're on that topic of okay, well, we are very therapeutic in our approach; we're very sympathetic to people who want to improve themselves or feel better about themselves or do work. I mean, I think one of the things that we forget is a lot of therapy isn't just about going somewhere and being told, 'Yeah, that's true.' That's what it's about doing work, and so that's why I had a little blanching moment there. Yes, when you come out of therapy, you're not just sitting there in a brown study kind of going, 'Oh,' and it's exuding. You're actually thinking, 'How can I change? How can I shift things?' And you are changing, and it's very hard to know what of that is authentic process and what of that is actually presenting to the world in a potentially controlling way, and in this instance, I think it's pretty clear in a text like that that it's pretty obvious. I mean, I'm almost staggered; it makes me question the therapy he's been receiving that he feels he could have written that and not be at all sort of like, 'Should I send this?' Well, really? Does that support it? No, because it's so overtly controlling. Well, I know, but, as we say, it doesn't, you don't go to therapy and then you're... He's made a documentary, but it's just amazing.