Roane and Eva Hunter

Sex, God, & Chaos

hunterroane@gmail.com (Roane Hunter, Ben Derrick)

  • 043 Why it's hard to change.

043 Why it's hard to change.

Monday 12th August 2024

Roane Hunter and Ben Derrick explore why making lasting changes is tough, focusing on brain science, shame, and the importance of community.
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Sex, God, & Chaos
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Roane and Eva Hunter
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Navigating Intimate Relationships
Healing Relationships
Religion & Spirituality
Recovery from Trauma
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Why It's So Hard to Change: The Science Behind Lasting Transformation

Episode Overview

  • Understanding why making lasting changes is challenging.
  • The impact of generational and conditioned patterns on behaviour.
  • The role of the brain's limbic system in avoidance behaviour.
  • The importance of recognising and overcoming shame and false beliefs.
  • The need for authentic community and personal disclosure in counselling.
I've got to unlearn all the things that I learned
Why is it so hard to change? Roane Hunter and Ben Derrick tackle this question head-on in this episode of Sex, God, & Chaos. They dive into the intricacies of why making lasting changes in our lives can feel like an uphill battle. From deeply ingrained behaviours and thought patterns to the brain's limbic system and developmental stages, they cover it all.
You'll hear about the significant role that generational and conditioned patterns play in our lives, often leading to avoidance behaviour. One of the standout points is the importance of recognising and overcoming shame and false beliefs, which are often unconscious but have a massive impact on personal transformation. Roane and Ben don't just talk about the problems; they also offer solutions. They highlight the crucial role of authentic community and personal disclosure in counselling.
They stress that real change requires more than just willpower – it involves defrosting the hippocampus to process and heal from trauma. Their discussion is peppered with personal anecdotes, making complex topics relatable and easier to understand. The episode also delves into how our brains develop and store memories, affecting our ability to change. You'll learn about the amygdala, hippocampus, and nucleus accumbens – all key players in how we react to stress and pleasure.
By breaking down these scientific concepts, Roane and Ben make it clear why change is tough but achievable. If you're struggling with making lasting changes in your life or supporting someone who is, this episode offers valuable insights and practical advice. Don't miss out on understanding the deeper reasons behind our behaviours and how to effectively address them.