Mirroring for Manipulation: Unmasking Deceptive Behaviour
Episode Overview
Mirroring often starts in infancy as an unconscious behaviour. In recovery, conscious imitation can become a tool for manipulation. Manipulative mirroring can build false trust and lead to gaslighting. Lack of self-identity or jealousy can drive manipulative behaviour. True connection comes from listening, not imitation.
Listening, not imitation, may be the sincerest form of flattery
In episode 289 of 'A2D - From Addict to Disciple', David Hain takes a deep dive into the concept of mirroring, also known as mimicry. This behaviour, often starting in infancy, can become an unconscious part of our interactions. However, in the context of recovery, it can sometimes morph into a conscious tactic used for manipulation.
David explains how this pattern of imitation can be used to control people, conversations, and situations, shedding light on the fine line between natural mirroring and manipulative mimicry. He highlights that while mirroring can build empathy and rapport, it can also be a tool for deception and control when used consciously. David uses examples to illustrate how manipulative mirroring can build false trust and even lead to gaslighting.
He explores the reasons why someone might resort to such behaviour, including a lack of self-identity or jealousy. Drawing on the wisdom of American psychologist Joyce Brothers, David emphasises that true connection comes from listening, not imitation. The episode encourages listeners to reflect on their own behaviours and the intentions behind them. It's a thought-provoking discussion that offers valuable insights for anyone on the path to recovery.
So, if you're curious about how mirroring might be affecting your relationships and recovery journey, this episode is definitely worth a listen.